Hello internet world, I am sister of the blog creator, and I am very tired.  Is it my job or my responsibility to take on the guilt worry and stress of pushing and pulling this stubborn donkey into sobriety?  Of course not. Although when I don't try the guilt is crushing.  I have dreams of screaming in his face all the harsh truth that he desperately needs to hear but I am too much of a coward to actually say,  "You're killing yourself you @#$&, and I will be the one to suffer for it so quit being so @#$% SELFISH and sober up already!!" of course in my dream he does exactly what I fear he will do in waking life, he screams at me even slaps me and tells me he never wants to speak to me again. 
    Apathy can creep in, very slowly but it happens.  Then, the war is lost and we all stood idly by and let someone we love deeply slip away.  How to keep from letting it set in?  Well, him getting totally shitty and pissing everyone off is a good reminder, however counterproductive.  The only solution is to pray, pray hard, keep praying and pray lots more.  I have no other answers.  Oh yeah, rehab.  But as they say, you can lead a horse to water etc. etc.... More like, you can offer an addict help but if they are hell bent on self destruction and death wtf can you do about it?  Absolutely nothing.  Just sit back and watch.